Hard Times for Family Visiting Prison (1995)

posted by Brian Judge on Apr 03, 2011 in Prison TV Blog | 0 comments
Hard Times for Family Visiting Prison (1995)

No matter what you think about the person doing time and the crime they committed, their family and friends were also made victims.

What good does it do to remove the criminal so far away from society that their friends and family feel the pain of imprisonment and suffer?  What about crimes that are victimless, should that criminal also be removed from his or her family for the duration of their punishment. Separation from the world is the ultimate punishment.


Keep in mind that only ten percent of all prisoners get regular visits. For those that don't, sitting with the family of a friend at a social event is as close as you may come to getting a ‘visit’. I realize how hard it must be on someone who has lost a loved one to think that the person responsible for their death is going on with their life as if everything is normal. You may even say at least they get to see their loved one and you don't and in ways you’re right to feel great pain and sorrow.


Although you see me smiling in the picture that was taken with my mother and children, I am definitely hurting inside. The visit was only two hours long; my children grew up without me, knowing me only from periodic visits in closely monitored and controlled environments. Each time they left a visit not knowing if I would ever see them again.


Generally speaking, the guards were polite and respectful during visits. My family’s only crime was that they loved a prisoner. At other times, hasty decisions are made by security staff and our families are embarrassed, hurt, denigrated, and made to feel like prisoners themselves. Correction Canada is run by humans and not precision made machines; the odd guard passes through the cracks of psychological testing and exhibits extreme psychopathic behavior. Some are rude and unforgiving.


In the end, the prisoner usually goes home to the very family who visited, who endured the incarceration and put up with the loneliness of living without their loved one.  If all goes well the prisoner blends back into society and becomes your coworker, neighbor, member of your sports team and even your friend. You may not even know his/her past history. A country’s humanity can be measured by how it treats its poor, its mentally disabled and its prisoners; how do we measure up against an increasingly hostile world with a growing prison population?








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